Building A Spiritual Society

Today's we'll continue talking about the principles that form the foundation of our society, which strengthen our connection.

This all comes down to us each contributing our special energy. Just from listening to one another and relating to each person as an equal - that's how we build our society together.

Let's see how we can all come out of this lesson with more strength and optimistic about the future.

All our friends come from different conditions, environments, backgrounds - but somehow all the points in the heart come together. We can feel the Adam Harishon wanting to be built. It's really exciting to see people from such diverse regions coming together like this - especially since our world is so divided. It's all thanks to the light that spreads a type of tent/protective shield over us - just like Abraham did right when the hate started to emerge in Babylon. We're confident that you'll soon be joining our global learning community and advance to the next stage.

In the wisdom if Kabbalah there is no utopian idea for building a nice and polite society. The idea here is to create a ten to become equivalent in form to the Creator. And our laboratory for doing that is the ten. We're in the third lesson on this topic of the principles Rabash wrote about -

The first principle in building a spiritual society - we need to artificially raise the importance of our framework that helps us maintain ourselves in a reality of ups and downs. We want to constantly raise the importance of the goal. We spoke about the importance of taking part in the meetings. This often requires making a conscious choice to do this instead of something else. And it's important to do this to give others a good example.

The second is building equality in the ten. In order to build a vessel to reveal the Creator we need to all be equal. We see we're not equal - but this is about being equal in our yearning for the Creator. It's not about external things. Our friend is a way to measure myself - my attitude toward the friend.

The third principle - we try to be equal in a group and so we're inclined to all speak and behave the same. Here in the wisdom of Kabbalah we say the opposite - we need to maintain the uniqueness of each friend. Each has to maintain their individuality - his special yearning for the Creator - that's the called the root of the soul. It's very important to maintain his special path to the Creator. This isn't about characteristics - which never change as you'll discover later. What can we do? Correct the connection between us from our will to receive to our will to bestow.

The fourth is personal example - in thoughts and what we say. This inner effort is felt by others - how we compromise, etc. It's important not to hide these things. We want everyone to see so they'll receive fuel to also give the friends presents. Some people say it's not true love - of course we know it's not real love since we study the nature of love. And people outside - do they really love us? Our boss? No. But here we act and pretend - and we all know we're doing it.

The fifth principle - Buy Yourself a Friend - everyone must buy from a friend their demand for spirituality. I have my own - so why do I need another's? By attaching my point of interest for the Creator to those of friends - that's called a ten or research group - we build a common vessel - a collective format for putting all our deficiencies together to create a vessel for the Creator to fill. This is why I need to buy their yearning for the Creator. This has nothing to do with other skills or abilities they have. I only want to connect my point of yearning with his - this is how we build a common vessel. The Creator is revealed in the connection between us. So the deeper and more purposeful our connection is - the more light we'll attract.

The sixth principle - we each judge one another by our faults. I'll always see a friend's faults - and gradually with the help of the light we start to see these things inside us. That's truly a spiritual revolution. This indicates real advancement. We don't see it in the whole world but rather in our ten - and gradually I start to justify the Creator.

Today we'll continue with principle #7 - which explains how to criticize the friends. It's very important because our natural inclination is to criticize - but if my spiritual advancement is dependent on someone - and I feel that person is not doing what is necessary. How can I give positive criticism in a way that will help us reach the goal? This is not about behaving nicely. We'll see that there is a very deep spiritual root here.

Clip: There is no point in criticizing society, because it's like the pot calling the kettle black

Rav: I cannot criticize society, because it's like the pot calling the kettle black. I cannot, I can only invest in it. And everyone sees society in a way that they have vessels for. I do not see reality as it is, I see how it appears with my vessels.

Therefore, every situation only tells me what I need to do within myself, how I need to correct myself, change myself, so that society will be seen as a holy society, one that can literally bury our ego like a dead body and give life to the soul." Michael Laitman

What is Rav saying to us? That I don't see reality as it is - but rather how it appears in my vessels. Meaning this is our subjective reality.

Where there is love - we no longer see faults. So we need to try to see the good things in our friends instead of their faults.

We constantly see faults in others when we look around. We may see someone who looks good and think right away - well they must be stupid, to even things out. Or we see someone successful and think - of course because he has rich parents. We're always belittling the people around us because that makes us feel better about ourselves. So we like to think of people being less smart or beautiful than us. No matter what - I need to be more than others otherwise my ego suffers. Look how people buy a bigger car to have a bigger car than the neighbor. This is why we buy so many things we don't need, because we don't want to feel less than others.

The best example Rabash gives is with kids. At some point in life the kids turn the parents into a driver. They have to be driven all kind of places. Sometimes you also take your friends' kids. When you hear your own child speak you think about how creative and smart he is. The neighbor's kid is less smart - it's easy to see faults in their kid. Why? Because I love my kid. Where there is love - we no longer see faults. So we need to try to see the good things in our friends instead of their faults.